Spontaneity Is Crucial For A Love Relationship
Aristotle was teaching Alexander the Great about the marriage between self-regulation and spontaneity: “Pleasure is found in the consciousness of free spontaneous action.”
Happiness is a free and successful expression of your will—leading to flow, comfort, and pleasure!
All that is needed for happiness is a large reserve of spontaneity. That’s why spontaneity is the essential element for a love relationship.
Attention → Imagination → Spontaneity → Love
- Spontaneity is an impulsive, uncontrollable activity produced by your nervous system; without the direct influence of mind
When there is not enough spontaneity for even everyday life, people get serious, reserved, and tense; at the beginning from time to time, then later it becomes consistent and causes depression. People think they can fake being relaxed and happy—but the truth is—everyone around them feels their energy.
- Spontaneity is impossible without imagination. Love starts with imagination. It only provides energy flow to resources or people that a person is interested in. In order to awake imagination, one has to first capture the attention.
One cannot fall in love with someone or something using the will of their minds. The flow of spontaneity can only be caused from the outside, by someone else catching their attention. Any pressure prevents the growth of spontaneity, as stress interrupts the flow of energy
- Expectations kill spontaneity. Spontaneity is an absolute absence of expectations.
Accepting things and other people as they are without getting disappointed will help spontaneity to stay uninterrupted and magnetism to grow.
“Imagination is more important than knowledge” ~ Albert Einstein
Once you master your dating skills to the point that you don’t think about the execution anymore, you’ll express your deliberate intent and will. You’ll do so with an empty mind and allow Universal flow to take place—then you’ll experience magic and love in your life.
Formula For Personal Magnetism
Spontaneity + Will Power = Personal Power, Magnetism & Charisma
The Golden Rules Of Attraction And Success:
- A magnetic person is someone who gains access to another person’s spontaneity
- Spontaneity is an uncontrollable impulsive activity that is produced by the nervous system—without the direct influence of the mind
- The higher your spontaneity is, the higher your magnetism and vital energy will be
- The quality and amount of spontaneity depends on the level of consciousness
- The higher the level of a person’s vital energy, the happier he is
- Happiness is a free and successful expression of will
- Energy (spontaneity) depends on your Ego settings (boundaries with others, self-esteem, self-respect, self-regulation and will power)
- A successful person is not the one with perfect time management but the one with perfect energy management
- Respect for others humbles us and self-respect makes us autonomous
- The higher the self-respect, the higher the magnetism
Influencing others is only possible through imagination and never directly through the mind. (That’s how most advertisements work)
Words are not contagious. Emotions are!
When Spontaneity Is Missing
Let’s look at a few examples of what singles’ lack of spontaneity looks like.
Example 1 – “I Am Too Intimidating”
Men are looking for young, beautiful and stupid women, and get intimidated by smart educated, successful, and accomplished women.
TRUTH: Men are not afraid of smart women. Men are afraid of boring, dry, cold, negative, arrogant, intense, full of themselves, bossy women. Men are looking for emotional support, relaxation, warmth, attention, pleasure, bliss, and excitement in women more so than physical attraction and intellectual stimulation. What can a smart woman with no spontaneity give to a man? She can offer intellectual stimulation but cannot deliver emotional pleasure and satisfaction. Having a high intellect is only a plus if spontaneity is present!
Example #2 – “Women Are After Money”
Women are not looking for good-hearted men but are focused and motivated by material benefits and attributes first and the most.
Usually men, who are afraid of this type of women, are actually the ones who are lacking resources, have an inflated sense of self-esteem and bad boundaries. As a result, they most often are lacking charm, charisma, and have zero spontaneity. They’re unable to create a fulfilling, engaging magnetizing, romantic connection. These men get hooked on women who they have little to no chance with. In reality, they are of a very low significance in the eyes of the women they are after. However, they cover reality with endless self-deceptions and illusions—protecting themselves from the truth. They believe that women are only after money.
The truth is, they are not attractive to the woman due to their lack of spontaneity and charisma. They refuse to accept the fact that another man—one with a higher level of spontaneity, charm, and charisma—would be able to attract her with little to no financial investment.
Example #3 – “Women Love Bad Boys”
Women love “bad boys”. “Nice guys” finish last.
Women love kind men, and value them for their stability—both moral and financial! Women do not like men with no spontaneity, blocked energy; or who are needy, insecure, boring, scared, timid, rigid, or intimidated.
With my 15 years of experience matchmaking, I can confirm:
- Between two smart women, a man will pick the one who is more spontaneous
- Between two spontaneous women, a man will always pick the smart one
- Between two women—one only spontaneous and one only smart—a man will pick the spontaneous one
In trying to explain it, men will call spontaneous women feminine, sexy, sweet, alive, emotional, expressive, with a spark in the eye – everything that is so attractive to men!
What attracts others to you is your vital energy! Nothing else!
Stop the self-deception! Stop hiding behind your endless delusions! Learn with us how to become spontaneous and turn into a love magnet with our coaching tools and strategies!
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Recognize And Accept Reality And Release Others From Your Pressure
We will help you develop a realistic outlook at life—peeling off the illusions that distort how you view both yourself and your relationships
To become successful in life, love, and business, a person must be able to analyze, plan, and strategize effectively. What is needed for this? No Illusions + Sufficient Experience. Without special training and effective coaching, most people have no chance to elevate the level of their personal development. Their own experiences and analysis often only help to repeat the vicious cycle over and over again.
Balance In Your Life And Relationships
We will help you upgrade your communication skills in all of your personal relationships
We have an approach for helping you master your communication skills needed to grow attraction. These skills help reduce conflict and assist you in maintaining healthy dynamics and balance in relationships—both romantic and otherwise.
We help you see what is invisible to you. We help uncover your blindspots in communication—providing feedback to adjust your responses accordingly; making your communication more productive and successful for you. The intention is to ensure that debris from a negative relationship does not impact future interactions, and instead serves to help kick-start the healing process.
Develop Inner And Outer Resources
We will keep you accountable in reaching your goals to improve the current level of your resources
Magnetism is filled with energy that people get from their developed resources like image, health, financial resources, adequate confidence and self-esteem, self-respect and respect for others, good personal boundaries, self-love, and empathy.
Improve Sex Appeal And Image
We will help you create a well-developed image that is relaxed and natural—matching your inner energies, personality, body/face type, and status
An ideal image is NOT about clothes and style. A lack of spontaneity is what is making your image dull and unattractive. Sex appeal is best expressed in the way in which you can unlock spontaneity in another. The foundation of a good image is to understand and accept your deficiencies and to start loving what was given to you by nature. A harmonically chosen image reduces the inner and outer pressures from stress and increases your energy flow. Spontaneity increases and allows you to feel relaxed, confident, and alive—with a spark in your eyes.
Go With The Flow
We will help you fight your attachments and share with you our techniques to improve at the art of letting go
Spontaneity means you don’t interfere—you are in a let-go mode. Whatsoever happens, you watch; you are a witness to it like an observer. You know it is happening, but you don’t jump into it, and you don’t try to change its course. Your desire to control the outcome will kill the spontaneity. Only strong self-respect will allow you to be independent, count on yourself, and strive for self-development; so you have more to offer others.
Stop Begging For Love
We will help you to grow your self-respect and arrive at a place of inner completeness, balance, and peace
Spontaneity means you don’t have any direction or objective to attain from others. You only accept what is offered to you VOLUNTARILY!
Countless people are dragging themselves towards some imaginary goal to extract from others—love, sex, affection, security—making themselves dependent and miserable, and missing the beauty and bliss of life—which is the ultimate goal!
Instead, try to grow and share your greatness with others. Be respectful and empathetic, stay open, and gratefully accept whatever gifts the Universe has prepared for you!